Those people who met in the teenage age, how did we change our life?
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In the period of young people, I believe we have more or less, I have played passive, I don’t know the role of rejection.
Maybe I will feel that I am not good at social, always looked at others in the class, but I often feel lonely. Maybe because we will not refuse others, we seem to be easier to delay each other. Even if I have a favorite person, I have never dared to reveal the voice, until I graduated, I have ended.
On the other hand, in the youth of each of us, there must be such a “casual friend” around him:
They have been enthusiastic about life, they are free, dare to do. At the same time, they can see that some flash points don’t have to be found, they will want to support some ideals that you can’t believe in yourself.
In the days of confused, they rescued the passive us, and the church we have to be brave.
Today, I will tell you a movie that tells this story – “Wallow Teenager”.
The story began in high schools that bell rang in class.
The protagonist Charlie is a typical 腼腆 passive, not good social, do not know the high school boys who refuse.
There is no friend in his life. At noon, you can only sit in a lively dining hall to eat sandwiches. From time to time, it will be bullied by other students, and grab the homework in his school bag.
From Charlie’s first day, he silently countd down the number of days from graduation.
However, Charlie’s painful experience is not limited to this.
Charlie’s aunt Helen once was his most favorite person, but the latter was killed in a car accident when he bought his birthday gift. Therefore, Charlie has always felt that a aunt is because he is dead, strong guilt and self-blaming moments are torture.
More pitiful, his only and the best friend Michael also swallowed himself a year ago, and Charlie who lost his friends was equivalent to losing the fullest of the last life.
Sleepy in the depressed Charlie, accompanying his bottle of antidepressants and thick diary every day.
The transfer appeared in Charlie’s handcrafers.
He met a group of “crazy” small partners headed by the high-grade birth of a debauchery, freely and sneaked: Patrick’s sister Shan, Elizabeth, Bob, and Alice.
In the eyes of Charlie, Patrick seems to be a
Successful example with him: purely bold, humorous, dare to show yourself, and do not evaluate others.
Patrick’s sister Shanm is also a charming girl. She is so cool, she will exciterate with Patrick to the tunnel because she heard a song of the scene, and she is excited to drive to the tunnel, standing in the car to bathe the wind.
At the campus dance, Patrick and Saha, who looked at the crowd, Charlie, couldn’t help but hopes to join them.
Surprisingly, it seems to be played with indulgence, and it is even immediately to accept Charlie, which is bullied in their small group.
With the development of the plot, the film gradually unveiled.
It turned out that the surface is hip hop, and it is unhappy Patrick and Sand, and there have been a heavy pain in the back.
“Welcome to” misplaced toy island “”
It turned out that Patrick has always carefully maintained the same sex lover relationship with the star Brad with the school football team.
Because the latter is very afraid of his severe and stubborn dad, and Brad is not willing to disclose the relationship between the two. And in a long time, Brad will be drunk every time, Brad will be drunk. Whenever someone asks, he will use the reason why “Drugs” will be avoided.
But Patrick said that he didn’t mind Brad when he was drunk, because two people can be together, he is very satisfied.
On the other hand, Shanum
Because it is beautiful, when I was just enrolled in the past, I was often drunk in the party’s male boy.
When she was still 11 years old, she was more invaded by her father’s boss …
Although Shanm hopes that he can take the university to leave here, it is probably just a luxurious thing for her.
When these “casual friends” mask were taken, we found that they had a painful heart. However, it is valuable that they are brave “live”.
A group of partners represented by Patrick and Sanda, under its “crazy”, “swing”, in fact, has a kind and warm heart.
It is because it was deeply hurt, and I experienced what is humble. They can more understand the weak people in the population, and willing to help people like Charlie, find their own flash points, so that life is very lively.
They will not judge this person through a person’s past, from some details, they can reflect their inclusion and accept:
They are willing to include the house of the family, Alice, like to steal the quirks of jeans;
They can understand punkilhabeth, which is full of earrings, becomes a double identity of Buddhists;
They are willing to accept Bob’s “Biased” and “delusions”, say “he is just a bit sensitive”;
So when Charli tries to integrate with everyone, they also maintain equality and appreciation of Charli, and no one dislikes Charlie, nervousness, and idle.
Even when Charli invisibly files his friend’s commitment, they will also want to protect and support this friend.
Between this group of “mad friends”, Charli found a sense of practical belonging, and he began to see his value. As he said herself,
“You are not small, you are very beautiful.”
“Why is a good person who will choose to have a wrong person?”
During the process of getting along with Patrick and Sand, it is quiet and sensitive, and the traumatic is afraid of Charli slowly change.
He began to dare to raise his hand in the classroom. He would pick up his favorite mix tape for Shanm, and seeing the results of Saum Sat did all, he took the initiative to put forward the Mathematics of Hoshan Tutoring. At the same time, he also begins to think about the problem of love.
Charlie’s sister’s boyfriend is a “Mombao”, and his favorite Shanm is always with unsuitable men. You can’t hear it in anyway, they can’t hear it. As Patrick said: “I hate Saim is always in front of her boyfriend, I always tell her not to let himself be so humble, but she is unparalleled.”
So there is a world lesson, Charlie asked the teacher, “Why is the good person to choose the wrong person?”
The teacher replied,
“Because we only accept love you think.”
Sarum’s boyfriend Kraig does not understand her. He doesn’t understand the music and hobbies of Sarum. It is said that the high school dance will be naive and refuse to participate, let Saha stood in the corner to see others. Dancing. But Sandy still bowed his head and headed his head and greeted Kragh, and even would like to turn himself into another.
It can be seen in turn, what is Charlie? In front of Saha, he always put himself very low, and comforting himself, as long as she was happy, it was actually his inner, and he couldn’t help himself.
If a person can’t see his own value, then he will naturally fall three points when he is intended with people, thinking that he is not worthwhile, so repeatedly encountered a wrong person, repeatedly hurt himself.
In front of favorite people, Charlie always had too many concerns. He is afraid of exposing the true self, scare people around you.
However, there was a thing that happened, so that he finally understood that people who truly love you will like you.
“People who really love you will like the true you.”
Because of an accident, Patrick and Brad’s things were discovered by the latter, as a “deep cabinet” Brad decissed with Patrick, and quickly found a girlfriend to make a cover.
More cold is that when Brad’s friends laugh at Patrick, Brad is also falling in the stone, and Paltrick is “base”.
Patrick finally couldn’t bear to make Brad, but then he was slammed by the football team.
At this time, the past has been bullied by Charlie, firmly dialing the crowd, going to the twisted people, and waving the fist to save Patrick.
Everyone has always thought that Charlie is a weak inner way, but it seems that the rugby captain of the high-headed Malaysia, I am afraid it is the truly weak one.
Charlie did something that did not dare to do before, but he touched “crazy” did not scare everyone, but in turn, the people look at Charlie, especially Saim.
When they are about to graduate, some people discovered that Craig has been carrying Shanm with others, and they will break up. Seeing things, I have to rush, but I have always maintained a distance from each other, but I can’t wait for the other party.
However, it is gratifying that it has been acting as a “wall flower” (the people who have no dance parties in the dance party) role Charlie, and finally, they will be courageous, and they have a white emotion to the Shanmou, and take the initiative to kiss her. .
I think this is Charlie to know the biggest gain of this group of “mad friends”:
He saw his own value, no longer passive, dare to take the initiative to pursue the people who like to like, “grab” the person.
“When we see your own vitality, I dare to go into all myself.”
In this film, many times have tribute to the 1975 classic B-class film “Rocky Terror”, which contains people who want to express their expresses.
“The Rocky Terror Show” is the first character of Ford, in the eyes of others, “freighter”, “wonderful”, just like Charlie of Musne, the school, is suffering from Shanum, and self Unparabamic comrades Patrick.
However, in this show, these misunderstandings, “Wonderful”, in fact, is a group of kind people who love life, they dare to do themselves, live in the moment, enjoy the beauty of life.
The core concept of this show is also the main purpose of the movie:
When we see your own vitality, we dare to come into wholeheyles, and the existence of “mad friends” can make you arrive in self-esteem.
At the end of the movie, Charlie said:
I know that one day, all of this will become a distant past;
Our model will be fixed in the old photo, we will also make a parent.
But now these moments have not passed, they are happening, just in the moment.
I listen to music, in the wind, and the favorite people;
I dare to say, at this moment, we are “unlimited”.
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